I am 25 years old and for several years now I have been under constant pressure from by family, especially my mother, that I need to get married. How can I make my family understand that I’m not ready for marriage yet? I am not even sure if I want to get married at all. For most of my life, I have been told by my parents (mostly my mom) to stay away from boys and to focus on my schoolwork and landing a good job. Now that I’m older, my mom comes out of the blue and starts lecturing me on finding a boyfriend, getting married, and having children. I’m very comfortable being on my own right now.
Happily Single
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Hello, Happily Single,
I’m so glad that you are happily single. That’s really all that matters. Your happiness is YOURS. Nobody else’s. Your mother lived her life and now it’s time to live your BEST life. Go ahead and happily do you.
You go girl!!
Remember, #YouAreWorthy
Damien Williams is a Minister & Bible Teacher at Ekklesia Bible Fellowship in Kingston, Jamaica. He is also an Educator, Life Coach and Human Rights & Justice Advocate. His day job is as a Field Operations Manager at Habitat for Humanity Jamaica. If you have an issue that you need advice on, send an e-mail to [email protected] or [email protected]
The key is that you are ‘happy’ and since you are, stay in your happy place for as long as you need to be. The right thing at the wrong time equals disaster, as much as the wrong thing at the right time would. You’ve got an amazing opportunity to grow independently and establish yourself before becoming attached (u don’t want to enter a marriage for the sake of being married or to please anyone).
Marriage isn’t a solution to anything, it’s not an achievement, its a lifetime commitment and not until you are ready to enter that lifetime commitment are u ready for marriage.
Your family may never understand, but its better you wait and get it right (if youbdo choose to get married) than to rush it for the sake of pleasing your parents. Besides, you should bring substance and stability to your marriage union, enjoy you and your single season and when you come to the marriage table, you’re coming with a full course meal and not as a dependent… Cheers
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